I have been sick during the past couple of days and have been meaning to do a post so sorry for the late posting. The topic for this post should be obvious. Many friends of mine have been stuck in relationships because they don’t have the guts to stand up for themselves and tell the other person to take a hike. As simple as this act sounds, it is a lot harder to do.
In a previous post I told guys to open up to the woman they like, and not to be afraid to express their emotions. As time passes on between you and the girl you like, you will become attached, even more so if you get really attached through your romance. But, you must never be afraid to end the relationship if it is for a good reason. Now that doesn’t mean not having sex with you is a good reason. But when there is a good enough reason to, it is important for you to respect yourself enough, female or male, to say to yourself that I deserve better. I am not an expert in this situation as I tend to be too humble to realize this soon enough. I find that women tend to have this problem more often than men. I was actually talking with my brother’s girlfriend about this and being in a women’s study class, she actually told me an interesting fact. She said that on average, a woman in a relationship will only break up with the guy after being walked all over about 21 times. Yes it feels good to be in a relationship but that feeling does not mean you shouldn’t be treated badly. If you are being cheated on, end it! I know this is really hard to do. Once again I may not be the foremost expert on it seeing as how i forgive a previous gf for cheating on me and continued to date her … only to get my heart broken again. When you think of forgiving your girlfriend or boyfriend for cheating on you, I want every single one of you to remember this saying. Once a cheater, always a cheater. A lot of people in the past have told me “well it’s ok, I can change him. He won’t cheat on me. He is different now.” It is true that when it comes to certain things like texting habits, people can change. However, when it comes to stuff like cheating, I don’t care who you are, you will not be able to change a person from cheating. I have yet to see a cheater stop cheating down the road. The key to all of this is respecting yourself. Knowing that you deserve better and making the steps to ensure that.
Now comes the time where I contradict myself. Don’t be afraid in a relationship to try and communicate, compromise, and work things out. Sometimes in a relationship people think that a bump in the road is a sign to break up and they don’t even bother trying to fix the problem instead of ending things. In the end, it is up to you. I can sit here on my computer typing away advice on what to do but it is you the one that has to say “goodbye.” I once helped a friend in Waterloo out of a horrible relationship. She thanks me now for it but in the end it was her that did the deed, not I. You have to realize that you can do better and that it is time to move on. Once you respect yourself enough to do so, you will be able to utter the three words …. “It is over.”
Skyye
Love is all around you, all you have to do is look
