Due to the lack of questions being sent in I decided to take this time to discuss some topics that I am very passionate about when it comes to relationships and dating women.
Now some people may argue with the statement that I am about to make but in all the years that I have been dating, I have yet to be proven wrong about it. The old methods are the best methods. The oldies are making their come back. In today’s world, there are so many guys that try the one-liners or guys that dress with the clothes that are ten sizes too big, and the list goes on. It is because of this that when a woman is exposed to a man that is a gentleman and gives her a taste of the old ways she is surprised and wowed. And a lot of these ways don’t even involve a lot of effort. The classic holding the door open or opening the car door for her. Another example and one that quite a few guys that I know have managed to screw up is when it comes to picking the girl up from the house for a date. Now usually if its the first date you guys will meet somewhere other than the house but even if you do pick her up from her house on the first date, DO NOT … I repeat … DO NOT wait in the car. There are only two exceptions to this rule and I will explain them in a moment. Instead of waiting in the car for her, get out, and knock on the door. If she answers then she will most likely shout out into the hosue that she is leaving and then you guys will head out. However, if a parent answers the door, politely greet them by introducing yourself and state in a nice tone that you are there to pick up their daughter. So many parents of exs of mine have mentioned that they were impressed that I actually took the effort to go to the door and wasn’t afraid of them. I mean you should respect her parents but there is never any need to be afraid of them. They are merely trying to look out for their daughter. Now for the two exceptions to this rule that I have encountered. The first one is obvious. If when you pull into the drive way, and she is heading out the door, then there is no need to knock on the door. You can get out and meet her half way or open her door for her which I highly recommend. The second exception is based on the parents. I have dated some girls in which if a guy were to meet the parents, that basically meant that he was going to marry their daughter. This you want to try and avoid on a date and usually the girl will not want you to meet her parents so that is ok. Now im sure after reading this part there is someone somewhere arguing that when it comes to feminisists the old ways will only bring you headaches. While this may be true I am merely telling you from my experience. I have yet to have a woman criticize me or yell at me for holding a door for her.
Something that I find to be a dwindling thing in relationships is romance. I know countless guys that are all too keen to romance a woman that they are interested in and when dating her initially. However, once they are in a relationship with set woman and have dated for a couple of months, they stop trying to surprise or romance the woman. A female friend once told me that romance is the little thing in a relationship that keeps things interesting. I have yet to see her be wrong in that department. Romance is not hard to achieve or do either. All it requires is genuine emotions, thought, care, effort, and for the idea to be personal. For example, I started dating a girl in December and christmas was approaching. I wanted to get her something even though she didnt celebrate christmas merely because I liked her and I loved making her smile. However, as most guys should know by now, when you first start dating a woman, you don’t go buying her the most expensive thing right away. So i decided to get her something personal and make it myself. Now this idea is now where near my most romantic but it is one of the perfect examples of personalizing a gift for a woman. Her favorite candy was M&Ms. So what i did was I bought materials to build a ginger bread house. Now before I put the roof on I bought a whole big bag of M&Ms and filled the house with them. Then when i met her i gave her the whole thing. The look on her face was priceless. It was a bit on the heavy side but she loved it. As a final example, I will tell you what she gave me before I headed off to Waterloo for another school term. She didn’t go buy anything like that. Instead, she took a lined piece of paper and wrote me a letter. She then folded it up nicely and gave it to me the night before I left. That letter meant more to me than anything she could have bought me. It was amazing and I loved because it showed that I meant enough to her for her to put effort into making something. So guys keep that in mind when getting a girl a gift. It’s not how much it cost you, it’s the effort and care that went into it. Oh and by the way, I still have that letter she gave me and read it from time to time.
Well I hope you enjoy my thoughts and feel free to leave your comments. If you have questions don’t be afraid to send them in and I won’t post the question itself if you do not wish others to know about it. I have tried to do the whole question process as secretly as possible to ensure your privacy so don’t hesitate to send in any questions. Till next time always remember this … never stop trying, never stop loving. Romance is everyone, all you have to do is look
Yours truley,
Skyye
