Beginning of School Opportunities

Hooray! A question … and it couldn’t have been timed more perfectly. This one comes from Anonymous.

So school is about to start in only a few days time, and for those of us who are signle this is somewhat of a new opportunity to find that someone. Any good advice?

This is actually a very good question and I am surprised that I haven’t made a post about it already. Many people that are going back to school come the beginning of September, are eagerly awaiting the rush of new people that will be immersed into their life, whether it be at university or in high school. This plethra of new people offers everyone with a chance to find that certain someone. With that said there are tons of things not to do and ways to approach this new opportunity so here we go.

Firstly and most importantly, do not start this school year off LOOKING for a relationship. I am sure many of you have heard the saying, “It happens when you least expect it.” Well this saying could not be more true. If you go looking for a relationship one of two things will happen. Either a) you won’t find that relationship you are looking for and because you had such expectations when it doesn’t happen you get sad/depressed and possibly ruin the school year for you or b) you jump into a relationship with a person that you normally wouldn’t and end up realizing that it was a mistake when it is too late and then someone gets hurt. So I cannot stress this enough … DO NOT GO LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP! I know it’s easier said than done but it is important to go into a new school year with an open mind and just looking to make your school year fun. Have fun, flirt, go to parties, etc. Don’t go to every party in an attempt to hunt down your ever ellusive soul mate. When it happens it will happen on its own accord and no sooner or later.

Secondly, and I said this in the previous paragraph but I shall elaborate further, make sure to approach the term from the right angle. What I mean by this is that go in with an open mind and for the purpose of having fun. The approach for finding a one night stand and a long term relationship are the same. In both cases you try to impress the member of the opposite sex. So go to parties, flirt, flaunt, and make new friends. Even you are looking for a long term relationship, start off with just flirting and friends. I can guarantee you that if you find a girl or guy you like and you just take things easy, flirt with them, get to know them, date them, and so on you may actually end up with a solid relationship. NO GUARANTEES though! The point is life is full of surprises and you must learn to roll with the punches (go with the flow if you will).

Finally, go out! I know studies are important and you should of course make sure to do your studies, be prepared for finals, labs, etc. but you should also go out and have fun. This is the main way that you are going to get a chance to flirt, flaunt, and explore those opportunities that come with the beginning of a new school term. A friend of mine once compared going out to an advertising campaign for a new product. The product in this case being you. If you want people to know about the product and catch their interest, you have to advertise it. How can they know that the product exists if they never see it. So go out, advertise the hell out of yourself and have fun (responsible fun … im not telling you to go out and become an alcoholic or jump off of balcony into a pool).

So to summarize, don’t go expecting a relationship. Instead go in with no expectations, an open mind, and with thoughts of just having fun. There is no specific series of steps to take in order to guarantee a relationship by the end of a year but if you go in with no expectations, I can guarantee you that you will no be disappointed. If you have any other questions feel free to ask and leave your comments. I hope this helps and I hope all of my readers have a great school year. To those of you doing frosh week this year, have fun … I know I did when I did it.

Skyye

Love is all around you, all you have to do is look

Skyye’s Call To Minds

Hey guys and girls. I know it has been a while since I last made a post. The two reasons for this is a) I decided to take a little break after doing a week of sex week posts and b) I haven’t gotten any questions from any readers lately. My website is a question based site and even though from time to time I will take matters into my own hands, I really cant think of anything to write for the past week. I guess it is a combination of writer’s block and the fact that I have been packing for my move back to Waterloo. Anyway please post questions up. I yearn for them and love to see my reader’s getting involved. Sex week participation was great and I very much enjoyed it. So I beg of thee, send me thine questions. Thanks. Oh and if I get inspiration for a topic or whatever I will be sure to turn on my computer and start typing away so that I can make a post soon.

Skyye

Love is all around you, all you have to do is look

SEX WEEK Day 5

Well this post is the last for SEX WEEK and I would first like to thank everyone for leaving their comments and to my readers for checking in every day. This post is merely a thank you and a question to you the readers if you feel as though I missed something during SEX WEEK and what you thought of it, if it was helpful or not. Tonight I am with my girlfriend so I will keep this post short. Thank you everyone and let me know what you thought of SEX WEEK.

Skyye

Love is all around you, all you have to do is look

SEX WEEK Day 4 — Sex Myths

For this post I have researched via internet and from friends myths that are common about sex. For some I knew the answers but for others I actually had to look up if they were true or not because I hadn’t heard them before … lol. So here is a list of myths and whether they are true or not and why.

Myth #1: Size Does Matter

This one varies from person to person. I am sure that there are some women reading this right now and saying OH IT SO DOES! But the majority of female friends of mine that I have talked to tend to agree that it doesn’t. The general consensus tends to be that if the man knows what he is doing, then size doesn’t really matter and you will be able to please your woman just as much if not more. However, some of the women that I talked to about this say that size does matter. Like I said it all depends on who you ask. Some sex experts agree and others don’t. The point of the matter is to make sure you know how to please your woman and what you’re doing. Don’t be afraid to look up online tips for better sex and women don’t be afraid to help your man out.

Myth #2 If your woman doesn’t have an orgasm, you are doing something wrong

FALSE. Many men think this and feel as though they have let down their woman if they don’t give them an orgasm. Statistics show that only 30% of woman are actually are able to orgasm via penetration. Most of the time stimulation on the clitoris is also necessary to cause the woman to orgasm. It all depends on your lover. If you are unable to cause her to orgasm, try different positions where you can stimulate her clitoris and she can control the pressure to her liking. One of the good positions for this is where the woman is on top. If this still doesn’t work then talk to her and do things that turn her on. Fetishes are a great way to turn her on and try to keep an open mind.

Myth #3 Using two condoms increases the safety

FALSE. This is not only false but after research, is more dangerous than using one. This is due to the fact that by using two condoms, there is increased friction between the two and as a result have a greater chance of breaking.

Myth #4 An experience lover should be able to please anyone.

FALSE. This is not true due to the fact that every individual is different and has different turn ons and offs. Also, you could have sex with the most experienced person in the world but making love is also a mind and emotional game. If you are truly attracted to your lover and am crazy for him or her, then he or she will be great. However if you do have experience you have better odds of being better in bed so knowledge and experience is still a benefit.

Myth #5 You can’t get pregnant if the man pulls out before ejaculation or have sex in water.

FALSE. With the man pulling out before, there is still precum fluid that is secreted from the male penis before ejaculation. This liquid is meant for increasing the sperm’s chances of surviving in the urethra but this fluid also includes sperm and as a result a female can still get pregnant from it. Having sex in water does decrease the chances of the female getting pregnant but not enough for it be safe to do either way.

Myth #6 Drinking Mountain Dew will kill your chances of having children for men

FALSE. I remember hearing this myth once or twice in high school and believing it at first. But after looking into it, the ingredients in Mountain Dew may decrease the sperm count by a little but due to the shear number of sperm that is in a male’s semen it is not enough to cause a significant enough decrease to the point where a female would not be able to get pregnant.

Myth #7 Having sex the night before a big game will ruin your performance the next day

FALSE. This dates back to ancient times when men would have sex the night before a major battle. Athletes today tend to be superstitious when it comes to having sex the night before a big game and as a result a study was done. There was no correlation found between the athletes that had sex the night before and the ones that didn’t.

Myth #8 Condoms are 100% safe

FALSE. I know many of you are saying well of course they aren’t 100% safe but many people think they are and this is how some unplanned pregnancies or STDs happen. Condoms greatly decrease the chances of becoming pregnant and passing on STDs but one should still be safe. Some doctors still recommend that females take the pill as well and all doctors suggest that you know your partner’s sexual history and both get checked before having sex.

Myth #9 Men want or think about sex more than women

FALSE. The saying that men think about sex every 7 seconds is actually made up. I know several women that are actually more hornier than men and think about sex more often than some men do. Women tend to think or want sex more during certain periods in a month while men have their urges spread out. As a result it seems that men focus on sex more often than women. It is merely a matter of perception.

Well those are just some of the myths that I have heard or looked into. Feel free to leave your comments on the myths I have discussed or to even talk about some myths that I have omitted. I look forward to hearing from you, my readers, about myths you have heard about and whether they are true or false.

Skyye

Love is all around you, all you have to do is look

SEX WEEK 3 — Favourites of Sex

Hello everyone again. So it is the third week of Sex Week. I wish I could do this posts earlier in the day but with work and then everything else when I get home, even though this is a pretty normal week for me it is still hard to find the time. Anyway so the topic for today is really another question to you the readers. I want to hear about your favourties. What is your favourite sex position, your favourite condom  type, your favourite place to do it or have done it, etc. It can be any favourite of yours that is related to sex. To help things get along, I shall tell you some of my favourites. You guys can say more favourites than I will, I am merely mentioning favourites that I can think of at this moment in time.

Favourite position: missionary (woman on the bottom)

Favourite condom type: of all the ones I have tried, the ones that are heated or whatever tend to be my favourite due to how they feel for me and for the female.

Favourite place to do it: I would love to do it some place risky for the thrill once in my lifetime like you see in the movies. For example in a church confession booth like in Eurotrip.

Favourite type of lingerie on a girl: Black lace

Favourite type of kissing: I like kissing period but my fav involves a bit of bitting of the lips

Remember these are only things I could think of at the time. I can put more if you would like so feel free to ask and put your favourites.

Skyye

Love is all around you, all you have to do is look

SEX WEEK Day 2 — Hooking Up With Friends

So a week or two ago I got a topic suggestion from a reader about hooking up with friends. I say yes and no to this. The current love my of my life started off as a friend. Her and I dated then ended and even after breaking up, we stayed best of friends and realized that we still love each other so are trying it again. However, it is very difficult to pull off one night stands or relationships with friends and not have things get awkward. It really all depends on you, the friend in mind, and the relationship between you two. Some friends are able to pass the awkwardness while others let it get to them and they end up not being able to be friends, or at least like they use to be, anymore. It is hard to say. But I have said my opinion on it and now it is you, the reader’s turn. What do you think about hooking up with friends? Feel free to leave your opinions.

Skyye

Love is all around you, all you have to do is look

Day 1 of SEX WEEK — Shaved or Natural?

So today is the first day of SEX WEEK so I figured I would start it off with a question to you the readers… just to get everyone warmed up so to speak for topics to come. Here it is:

Which do you prefer when dealing with your spouse’s downstairs set up, shaved or natural?

Don’t be shy to leave your opinions. Remember no one will know it is you.

Skyye

Love is all around you, all you have to do is look

SEX WEEK Cometh Soon

So far I have had one topic suggestion for SEX WEEK and now that I have had some more free time, I have decided to do SEX WEEK next week (Aug 11th to Aug17th). Please feel free to send in more topic suggestions or questions that you may have in the sex department. Well thats it for now … hope to hear from you all soon.

Skyye

Love is all around you, all you have to do is look

Cheating — Question from baffled

My newest question is from “baffled”. She writes:

Hi, I’ve just caught out my boyfriend of 12 months cheating with someone else on and off most of the time we were together. We don’t live in the same town and only saw each other on weekends but she works with him. He seems truly cut up about it and says he did it because he lost faith in us working out after the first few months, but that he continued things because I never gave him a reason to end it and he liked being with me. Is this a total lie and is he really a player?

Well I believe I speak for everyone when I say I am sorry to hear about your situation baffled. As soon as I finished reading your question I knew what had to be said. I know I am bias when it comes cheaters but the reasons he has given you are BS. I really don’t like being the person to tell you this but you need to end it with him. He could be sincere about being sorry for cheating but I can guarantee you that if you stay with him, he will cheat again. I know he will say that he won’t but he will. If he was a real man, he would have chose either you or the woman he works with and if he chose her, then he should have broken up with you. I have friends that I like hanging out with and being around. He merely doesn’t want to give you up because when the girl he works with doesn’t want to be with him, he has you to fall back on. You are merely a back up plan to him and NEED to cut him loose. I promise you that you will be better off for it. Also, in my books I would consider him as a player. He fits into the definition I gave last post about what it is to be a player. He is leading you on without any real care for you while he fools around with another woman on the side. I know it will be tough for you because you obviously have immense feelings for this man, especially after 12 months, but I really recommend that you end it with him and find a better man. I hope everything works out for you and feel free to leave more questions.

Skyye

Love is all around you, all you have to do is look